Mesh Code of Conduct

When participating in Mesh communities, we ask you to embody the following values: respect, inclusion, openness, support, and community. Participate in an authentic and active way. In doing so, you contribute to the health and longevity of your communities. Use gender-inclusive language. Avoid ableist language. Refrain from demeaning, discriminatory, or harassing behavior and speech. Avoid making assumptions about pronouns, gender, or sexual orientation. Before sharing anything posted in a community to another community or site, ask the original poster for their consent. When asking consent, confirm whether they are comfortable having content attributed to them or if they prefer you to anonymize it. Look out for other participants. Alert moderators or admin if you notice violations of this Code of Conduct, even if they seem inconsequential. 

Unacceptable Behavior

Unacceptable behaviors include: intimidating, harassing, abusive, discriminatory, intentional misgendering, derogatory or demeaning speech or actions by any participant in our community online, whether in public channels or private messages, as well as in interactions between community members on other platforms or offline.

Harassment includes: Harmful or prejudicial verbal or written comments related to gender, gender identity and expression, sexual orientation, disability, mental illness, neuro(a)typicality, physical appearance, body size, age, race, national origin, ethnic origin, nationality, immigration status, language, religion or lack thereof, or another identity marker. This includes anti-Indigenous/Nativeness and anti-Blackness.

Spamming communities with frequent, irrelevant, or inappropriate content. Please avoid repeatedly posting the same thing or overwhelming communities with your content. Questioning or challenging someone’s stated self-identity or chosen labels, even if they conflict with your own views. (For example, discussions about bi vs. pan, trans vs trans*, or whether grey/demisexual people are asexual, even if well-intentioned.)Making general statements about groups you do not belong to.

Unwelcome comments regarding a person’s lifestyle choices and practices, including those related to food, health, parenting, relationships, drugs, political affiliations, and employment.

Trolling, i.e. sustained disruption of conversations without serving any legitimate purpose.Gratuitous or off-topic sexual images, language, or behavior in spaces where they’re not appropriate such as public communities or communities that prohibit it. Deliberate intimidation, stalking or following. Non-consensual sharing of sexual or explicit images. Microaggressions, i.e. small, subtle, often subconscious actions that marginalize people from oppressed groups. Minimizing other people’s experiences. No incitement of violence towards any individual, including encouraging a person to commit suicide or to engage in self-harm. Use Mesh to engage in illegal activity. Deliberate “outing” of any aspect of a person’s identity without their consent except as necessary to protect vulnerable people from intentional abuse.Advocating for members to be banned, except in direct messages, or private discussion with admins. 

Mesh prioritizes marginalized people’s safety over privileged people’s comfort.

The administrators will not act on complaints regarding: “Reverse”-isms, including “reverse racism,” “reverse sexism,” and “cisphobia.” Reasonable communication of boundaries, such as “leave me alone,” “go away,” or “I’m not discussing this with you.” Communicating in a “tone” you don’t find congenial. Criticizing racist, sexist, cissexist, or otherwise oppressive behavior or assumptions. The examples listed above are not against the Code of Conduct. 

Consequences of Unacceptable Behavior

Unacceptable behavior from any community member, including those with decision-making authority (community leaders and moderators), will not be tolerated. Anyone asked to stop unacceptable behavior is expected to stop immediately. If a community member engages in unacceptable behavior, the community leaders may take any action they deem appropriate, up to and including a temporary ban or permanent expulsion from the community without warning (and without refund of donations, dues, or fees when applicable). Mesh admins may choose to identify violators of our policies against abuse and harassment as a harasser to other Mesh members or the general public. We may also choose to share that harassing or abusive content if we feel it is best for the safety of the community.The intention of your behavior is not as important as the impact. We have no discussion about how your behavior was meant. What we care about is how it makes our participants feel. If you feel you have been falsely or unfairly accused of violating this Code of Conduct, you should notify one of the admins via email with a concise description of your grievance. Your grievance will be handled in accordance with our existing governing policies. 

When Something Happens

If you see a Code of Conduct violation, follow these steps: Let the person know that what they did is not appropriate and ask them to stop and/or edit their content. That person should immediately stop the behavior and correct the issue.If this doesn’t happen, or if you’re uncomfortable speaking up, report the content to the community moderators. As soon as available, a community leader or moderator will join, identify themselves, and take further action, where applicable, and resolve the issue.When reporting, please include any relevant details, links, screenshots, context, or other information that may be used to better understand and resolve the situation. If you are being harassed by a member of a Mesh community, notice that someone else is being harassed, or have any other concerns, please contact the administrators at support email. If the person who is harassing you is on the team, they will recuse themselves from handling your incident. We will respond as promptly as we can.This code of conduct applies to communities on the Mesh app, but if you are being harassed by a member of Mesh outside our communities, we still want to know about it. We will take all good-faith reports of harassment by Mesh members seriously. This includes harassment outside our spaces and harassment that took place at any point in time. We reserve the right to exclude people from Mesh communities based on their past behavior, including behavior outside of Mesh communities and behavior towards people who do not belong to Mesh communities.In order to protect leaders and moderators from abuse and burnout, we reserve the right to reject any report we believe to have been made in bad faith. Reports intended to silence legitimate criticism may be deleted without response.We will respect confidentiality requests for the purpose of protecting victims of abuse. We will not name harassment victims without their affirmative consent.


Respecting each other’s privacy is essential to a healthy, trusting community. Please don’t repeat or quote things said here without the affirmative consent of the speaker(s). Do not identify others as members of any community without their consent, as this may be a form of outing. Please be mindful that things you say here may at some point become public. We cannot prevent people from screencapping or otherwise sharing content. Please exercise caution and refrain from sharing sensitive information that could harm you or others if it became public. Mesh is a U.S. company and therefore subject to subpoenas from U.S. courts. Our logs may be subject to subpoena and could become public as part of legal proceedings. By joining our community, you are opting into these conditions.


This code of conduct is adapted from several sources including The Queer Design Club, Annalee Flower Horne’s Sample Slack Code of Conduct—which is in turn based on Geek Feminism’s Community Anti-Harassment Policy—the LGBTQ in Technology Slack, and Queer code. We have adapted these codes of conduct for our own use under the terms of the Creative Commons Attribution License. Please build on this for your own purposes, and suggest improvements.